The Danger Of Assuming People Wanted The Life They Got

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Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 630 , Saturday 19/07/2025

Saturday started just after 7am.

Made breakfast for the both of us & then caught up no here before grabbing a shower & getting ready to go out.

We had a good trip across the hills, if a little wet. Thankfully it was not as wet as the initial forecasts had predicted.

We stopped off at my dads for a chat an a cuppa before we took him to his favourite eatery for his birthday treat!

The meal was delicious, I had a steak burger with all the trimmings. There was cake too, but it was a huge piece so I had that boxed up as did Mrs S & we enjoyed them for our tea when we got home.

Final Thoughts.

A good day, thankfully we missed most of the forecast rain & everyone seemed to enjoy themselves!

Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you!

@actuallyautistic
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves

Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 630 , Saturday 19/07/2025

Saturday started just after 7am.

Made breakfast for the both of us & then caught up no here before grabbing a shower & getting ready to go out.

We had a good trip across the hills, if a little wet. Thankfully it was not as wet as the initial forecasts had predicted.

We stopped off at my dads for a chat an a cuppa before we took him to his favourite eatery for his birthday treat!

The meal was delicious, I had a steak burger with all the trimmings. There was cake too, but it was a huge piece so I had that boxed up as did Mrs S & we enjoyed them for our tea when we got home.

Final Thoughts.

A good day, thankfully we missed most of the forecast rain & everyone seemed to enjoy themselves!

Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you!

@actuallyautistic
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves

@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic another gem for our community
https://mas.to/@skeletor/114881424212957185

All of my life, I've struggled and suffered with intense headaches that would seemingly come out of nowhere, and when I'd remove myself for whatever I was doing and take a rest... They would dissipate just as quickly and if I wasn't able to remove myself, I'd get really frustrated and upset because of the pain of the headache.

At some point in my journey of realizing I'm likely autistic, I realized that the headaches I'd experienced all my life were actually due to overstimulation.

However, it took me a long time to realize this because in all of the discussion and descriptions of overstimulation that I'd seen online from the actually autistic community, I don't really remember headache specifically being named as a way overstimulation can manifest.

So, I'm curious... How does overstimulation manifest for you? Do you get headaches when you're overstimulated or are their other warning signs you notice? Do you notice you're overstimulated before you're at the point of meltdown?

#actuallyautistic @actuallyautistic

I often feel invisible. Wherever I am, it's as if no one notices me. It happens in both the offline and online world. No one is interested in communicating with me. It's frustrating. It's also why I feel like a unicorn, since no one has ever seen it either.

Some people grow up, and some people just get older. Which kind were the adults in your life during your early years?

Or which kind of adults had the greatest impact on you when you were young?

Another 8 minutes on the treadmill. I think I need to start timing the recovery process because my brain tells me I’m going to feel absolutely awful.

I do. I feel out of control, exhausted, in pain, breathless, sweaty and uncomfortable… for maybe 5 minutes? Probably less.

So I need to remind myself that this phase is temporary and I will feel fine after it. Because I do.

But for some reason my brain focuses on that few minutes as a reason not to move in the first place.
#FattyFitness #ActuallyAutistic

I worked bedside for a year, in outpatient clinics for 15. I have a busted back, Crohn’s, autism & ADHD that make patient facing roles really difficult. If I knew I was autistic 20 years ago, I’d probably have chosen anything but nursing, and being disabled in this profession is not for the faint of heart (not that it is in any profession, but the ableism is just so entrenched in our medical system)
I found my way into an entirely remote team, one that was developed as a remote team years before COVID sent everyone home
I don’t wake up and want to go to work ever, there’s always a million other things I’d rather be doing, and some days are still hard, but I think remote work has saved my life in so many ways, too, even if it’s just to allow the mask to drop and some room to breathe #actuallyautistic #actuallyadhd

I am presuming that other #ActuallyAutistic people have the same strange chain of thought thing?

Where you can get from - in my case - a festival sharing setup and teardown costs with another event to GodHatesFags in about 3 seconds?

And other Completely Logical Leaps that go so far so fast they seem like a total change of subject to anyone else?

Or is it just me.

This post <https://pixelfed.social/p/stuffifound/844831816028127142> possibly helped me do some self-diagnosis as suggested by @alice in their recently updated blog, <https://codeberg.org/alicewatson/asd-self-dx.git> via <https://lgbtqia.space/@alice/110788887452809618>, also a good read.

@actuallyautistic #ActuallyAutistic #Autism #ASD #Barefooter #Poly #SelfDiagnosis #SelfDX #SelfDxIsValid

Happy birthday to my mum!

I am eternally grateful for her unconditional love and support. Mum was my biggest cheerleader during my journey through the education system. She did not give up on me even when I struggled during my adolescence. My grades nosedived and I had to repeat a couple of years at university. I was totally lost, but her belief in me never wavered.

When I was withdrawn and struggling socially, she arranged for me to do some voluntary work. This helped to build my confidence at a time when I needed it the most. She has always encouraged me to do charitable deeds and to do what I can to help other people.

When I took an interest in travelling, she joined me on many trips. At a time when my peers were going on boozy holidays with their friends, I was exploring the planet with my mother... and I wouldn't have had it any other way! If you have read any of my books, you will know that she was willing to accompany me when visiting some far-flung places

I will always appreciate what Mum has done for me. Have a great day! You deserve it

Individuals with ASD who are more adept at hiding externally visible behaviors (due to social pressure to conform) will often have developed mechanisms for presenting more neurotypically, but their experience of it doesn't change. For example, I can shake someone's hand, look them in the eyes, and make some small-talk at a conference, but I'm dying inside the whole time—it's so uncomfortable. I don't like strangers touching me. I don't like touching people I don't have a close relationship to. But a lifetime of having to "pass" for interviews, events, etc. has made me "able" to (perhaps convincingly).

Just thinking about how our neurotype (AuDHD) reflects the non-human¹ animals we identify with the most.

We're autistic plus combined type ADHD, with most of our ADHD stat points invested into inattentiveness, rather than hyperactivity...

... so it makes sense that we're pretty much an eepy cat that has occasional zoomies, with some fox qualities (embodied by a headmate) blended in for good measure.

#AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #CatGirl #CatFoxGirlCombo #plural #TherianAdjacent

¹ Specifying that, as SO many people still forget, don't realise, or deny that humans are animals.

Good morning my fabulous incredible insomniac friending in my pocket I love you

Hope today brings lots of cool rain and releif from the heat.

I seem to have survived the night after mixing up my meds and taking my methylphenidate at 9pm I actually slept for about six hours so that’s not bad

Rest of the day, dump the stored heat in the house, setup my new watch my old one is not holding charge, have a sausage sizzle for brunch and maybe play some games.

Examining the watch thing I’m having anxiety around the battery life of my existing watch I absolutely rely on this thing in case I fall or get stuck somewhere or my health gets weird, maybe something I should talk to a therapist about but who has the money

#actuallyautistic

Watching Elton John being interviewed by Parkinson. No eye contact at all... #actuallyautistic very likely. I reckon most musicians are. You need focus and single-mindedness /obsessive repetitive behaviours to be a successful musician

Many of the things humanity has achieved that are considered great have been completely useless and done out of boredom. Like reaching the moon and the stupid obsession with founding a colony on Mars. An immature idiot got stuck in a childhood loop, dreaming of interstellar travel and conquests like his favorite video game, and dragging along legions of idiots like himself. Or is it all a lie to launder huge sums of money?

#mars #moon #absurd #moneylaundering #billionaires #nasa #elonmusk #actuallyautistic

I’m totally here for #Femboys4Tomboys!

Imagine if July 20 was the day we all celebrate #Femboys4Tomboys around the world, how amazing would that be? Let’s make it happen!

Boost this post, with all your good vibes, and let’s spread the love for all the Femboys, and Tomboys, everywhere!