Harmony Seeker<p>Thank you to everyone who replied to my last post. It helps to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. I’m seeing a therapist to work on attachment stuff, which helps a bit.</p><p>I wanted to ask more about online communities. That’s where I feel most myself. I’m in a few Facebook groups and subreddits, and I’d be open to WhatsApp, Discord, or Messenger chats—if they’re neurodivergent-friendly. But I still find it hard to actually join in.</p><p>I’m never sure when it’s okay to jump into a conversation. If people are chatting, can I just reply with my thoughts? Or is it weird if I wasn’t already part of it? I overthink it every time.</p><p>I also really struggle to start from scratch. I can’t just message someone or say hi out of the blue. I’m fine once someone talks to me—I bounce off what they say. It’s the starting that’s hard. Same online. Posts like this are easier, but just saying “hi I’m new” feels impossible.</p><p>Not sure I’m saying this right, but I hope my <a href="https://caneandable.social/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> friends get what I mean.</p><p><a href="https://caneandable.social/tags/Neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Neurodivergent</span></a> <a href="https://caneandable.social/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://caneandable.social/tags/OnlineCommunity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>OnlineCommunity</span></a> <a href="https://caneandable.social/tags/Discord" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Discord</span></a> <a href="https://caneandable.social/tags/WhatsApp" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>WhatsApp</span></a> <a href="https://caneandable.social/tags/FacebookGroups" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>FacebookGroups</span></a> <a href="https://caneandable.social/tags/AttachmentHealing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AttachmentHealing</span></a> <a href="https://caneandable.social/tags/SocialSupport" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>SocialSupport</span></a></p>